We recently celebrated my youngest’s 21st birthday. I’ve already written about 21st birthdays in New Zealand, about how they’re meant to be a time of affirmation for the past and a “we believe in you” moment for the future. Meg’s birthday was all that and more.
For weeks leading up to the party I was trying to organise in my head what I would say when it came time for speeches. There were plenty of stories to tell but in the end I wanted to share how thankful I am. That her birth coincided with our move to New Zealand. That our completed family has been blessed with 21 years of love, laughter and so many happy memories with the family and friends who came to celebrate with us on the night. I looked at my strong, loving and confident daughter and saw reflected in her the love and support provided to us all.
Milestones offer an opportunity to reflect on our past, and it’s essential we do it with kind eyes. No-one’s life is perfect and it’s important to acknowledge the challenges as well as the successes. Our memories provide the foundation for hope in the future.
Happy 21st birthday to my darling daughter and happy 21st anniversary to our family life in New Zealand.